All my coworkers and managers at my job get along well together. We have a really small staff and we all seem to enjoy each other’s company. We have good conversations and I love that when I go to work I can be excited to work with people I can also call my friends. I think I have more friends at this point in my life than I’ve ever really had previously. I have coworker friends and long distance friends and friends at church too. I’m so blessed to have all these people in my life!
Something that happens though, when you do talk to a good number of people on a semi-regular basis, is that you forget who you told what. Or maybe it’s just me that happens to. I forget who I talked to about some things. I can’t count the number of times I’ve started discussing something and I suddenly stop and look at my friend and ask, “Did we talk about this before?” and waaaaayyyyy too often they say yes. Then we laugh about it and lapse into silence unless I have some kind of update on whatever it was.
Obviously, I don’t have my life together enough to mentally keep track of what I tell people. There’s always so much to say to everyone in my life. I care about a lot of people and I want them to take part in my life. I want to have meaningful conversations about current events or drama or about pop culture. So often, I end up talking about the same things and telling the same stories to the same person. But on the flip side, sometimes a semi-major event in my life never even reaches a person I consider very close to me because I tell someone else and then think I told them already. Then sometimes the same friend listens to me tell the same story a hundred times without me realizing I’d told them it 99 times before.
Personally, I don’t get frustrated hearing the same story over again from my friends. If I recognize it early enough on I often try to mention, “Yeah, you told me about this” because I appreciate when others do that for me. I actually get much more frustrated with myself for doing it than others doing it to me. I think it’s just me being me. I don’t like endlessly repeating myself. One of my friends told me she really doesn’t mind hearing the same stories over again, which is very gracious of her! But then again, I just said I don’t mind hearing the same stories from others, because I don’t. I only mind that trait in myself.
I don’t know if my memory is just the worst or if I just get excited to tell my friends things that I mentally gloss over who I talked to before. If I’m looking for advice I think I remember better who I talked to. Because they give a lot more input. But if it’s just a story or an update about something in my life then my brain must go straight into autopilot.
Does anyone else do this? I remember telling the story multiple times but not who I told. I get flustered when my friend tells me I told her already because then I think back and can’t figure out who I did tell. Maybe that’s the more frustrating thing for me. Not so much that I’m repeating information but that I become so unsure about how many people have the information. Or maybe it’s just that it makes me acutely aware of how bad my memory is and I wonder if it’s possible to work on that or if I’m simply doomed to never figure out my life… I’ll have to look that up later, if I remember.