Last year this month, my cat of 12 years passed away. I still think of her often. I wrote a blog post about her and about grieving her and that really lifted a weight off my shoulders. What I didn’t say in that post was that it was only 2 days after her death when I got another cat. So now, the anniversary of my cat’s death is also almost the same day that I got my new cat, Dodger.
I spoke, in my post last year, about grieving and how I grieve. I had never lost my own cat before and was learning how to deal with that. I wondered, when I brought Dodger in, whether it was a bad coping mechanism on my part. Was I trying to replace Blessing so fast? Was I giving myself enough time to mourn her? Was I being selfish about wanting another cat in my life so quickly?
The reasons I brought Dodger in so quickly after Blessing were valid. She was a stray that we had kind of adopted for the last few years. She had been hanging out at our house more and more. But one day, a few weeks before Blessing passed, she came to the house with a bad eye infection. It was clear she was not doing well at all. She was constantly on our porch, not daring to venture too far away from that safety. It was starting to get cold out and she was losing fur and covered in scabs. It was evident that she was having a very hard time on the streets.
The preparations for her coming in had already begun. I knew that she would be the next indoor cat. To be honest, I had not expected her to be fully mine. My mom was the one who had initially started feeding the outside cats. But I was the one that Dodger liked. So my mom left it up to me to decide if/when she would be brought in. And I chose only a couple days after Blessing was gone.
How could I leave her outside any longer? We were expecting a cold snap and she was fur-less, half blind, and miserable. My own needs/wants had to be put on the back burner. She NEEDED to be cared for and I couldn’t justify waiting for my grief to make that happen. So inside she came. To the vet she went.
She’s an old lady cat, somewhere between 9 and 13 years old. She lost sight in one eye because of the infection. We found out she has a pretty extreme flea allergy, which is why she was losing fur and had scabs all over. Eventually we also learned she has an allergy to plastic as well. She had an attitude too. Mostly, I think, it was a lot of fear. It’s clear she has been a pet before. Whether she was abandoned, lost, or abused, we have no way of knowing. She doesn’t like being around more than a couple people at a time. She can’t handle being boxed in (i.e. can’t put your arms all the way around her because she freaks out). She doesn’t communicate very well. I got a lot of scratches from her that came with zero warning.
A year later and she is a happy, fat, relaxed cat. She still lashes out sometimes but I can read her a lot better and the incidences are few and far between now. She can interact with children pretty well (NEVER without supervision), which was surprising. It’s weird having a cat that my family didn’t raise. With Blessing, I knew all her quirks and, for the most part, how she got them. With Dodger, she does things that take me completely off-guard. She is always surprising me with how she behaves and how much love and affection she shows. I don’t trust her with strangers but every time she’s met someone new she’s been well behaved and sweet.
I don’t regret getting her quickly after Blessing. She helped me in unexpected ways. As I worked through my grief, she was learning how to live in her new environment. As I overcame my sadness, she was overcoming her fear. In our own ways, we grew together and that was invaluable to me.
There’s no knowing how long Dodger will live. She’s had a hard life and is already a senior cat. But for now she is healthy and loved. We jokingly call our house her retirement home. In many ways that is true. God put her here at the right time to get the care she needed. I look forward to as many years with her as she has left.