Most of us have probably taken a personality test or two (or ten) in our lives. I’ve never been one to take a lot of them but I do like the more detailed ones. I like having more than a short paragraph to read for answers and insights. Very short tests can’t be super accurate or provide detailed information because they just can’t. They don’t collect enough information to put out much. I don’t like ridiculously long ones either though, because I get sick of them by the end and feel like I’m no longer giving good answers.
A couple years ago, one of my coworkers showed me a test called 16personalities that fits right into the long-enough-to-feel-accurate but not-long-enough-to-make-mad category. I think there’s a more psychology-esque official name for the test but the website is just 16personalities.com . I really like this test and now I force it upon my friends fairly regularly. I think it gives really good information that lays out personality types in a very fair way that brings up plenty of positives but doesn’t ignore negative traits. It’s also fun and visually pleasing so those are bonuses.
When my coworker showed it to me I realized that I had actually already taken it as part of a job interview so I already had my results. There are 16 personality types (if you didn’t guess that already) and I am an in the Diplomat category, more specifically, Assertive Advocate.
The most interesting part of my results was not the general overview of my personality type. I was significantly more impressed by the “strategy” portion. That’s the part that explains how my type deals with everyday life and how I make decisions, which is usually what I most like about any personality test. I think that seeing how we deal with problems on a daily basis (from an outside, largely nonbiased source) is far more valuable than getting a generic, “You like to make good decisions with your brain!”
The official strategy I utilize is Confident Individualism. Which sounds really fancy. But the first two paragraphs give a quick little introduction to this strategy:
“Confident Individualists tend to trust in themselves. They enjoy their own company and don’t mind spending time alone to pursue their interests. Over time, this can give these personalities an impressive range of skills and interesting ideas.
“But these types take pride in their skills for their own sake, not to impress others. They tend not to see the point in social displays and bragging. While they’re proud of who they are, these personality types don’t always feel the need to prove themselves to anyone else. They prefer substance to superficiality and personal honesty to playing along.”
This is all pretty spot on for me. I do take pride in my skills but I rarely, if ever compare myself to others. When I’m writing I endeavor to compare myself to my past self, not to other authors. I don’t need to be a better writer than Stephen King or James Patterson or Nora Roberts, I just need to be a better writer than Cornelia Grace 3 years ago. I also greatly value substance in my friendships, and I hate seeing vapid bragging and shallow nonsense on social media. So just going off the first little bit, I can tell this is going to be accurate. It’s almost scary HOW accurate it is though.
Something that really hit me hard was how it says this, “At times, Confident Individualists may miss information and opportunities that challenge their views because they simply don’t place much importance on others’ approval.” Which, first of all, how dare they call me out like that. And second of all, this is definitely something I struggle with. I especially find that if a topic doesn’t naturally interest me then it is almost impossible to make myself care about it and do more research on it. I genuinely don’t mind my views being challenged but I do fall into the trap of not even caring about challenges because I just genuinely don’t care what others think about me. I would consider this a flaw in my personality. I don’t appreciate that I am this way. Not caring about gaining approval from others can be good but I feel like I often go into apathetic overload.
This isn’t to say that I don’t care about my friends or that I literally don’t care about anything. That’s something the test results did point out: “In their personal relationships, these types tend to be strong and honest. Their loyalty and affection are genuine rather than forced. These personalities only express respect and care if they really feel them. Fortunately, if they do feel them, they see no reason to hide how they feel.” This is also accurate. I am very passionate and I care about a lot of things. I have strong opinions. I can just be pretty apathetic as well, that’s character complexity. Dual feelings/behaviors. Not necessarily contradictions, just many angles of the same person.
I did think it was appropriate that it pointed out that “this relaxed self-assurance can lead to complacency.” Because I have felt for a long time that’s one of my worst flaws. I get very comfortable, no matter where I am, really. It’s a bad habit and I felt quite called out by that statement. My sister in law recently wrote a blog post about culturally acceptable laziness. Her post, combined with me looking into these test results, really kicked me in the butt. I definitely see myself being lazy recently and it’s not because I am not a hard worker or because I don’t want to do anything but sit around in my house watching Youtube videos. It’s because I’ve become complacent.
I’ve mentally decided that this is fine. I don’t want this to be fine. I want to work for more. I want to be better. I don’t want to be complacent or lazy. I want to be better. Already, I’d been trying to work on these flaws. I saw them in myself, if only peripherally. But now I can see them clearly and I will be working on being better, not perfect, but always working on myself.