So recently I’ve been thinking. A very normal occurrence for me, if we’re being honest. This entire blog is just my thoughts about my life in general. But this recent thought hit me out of nowhere. Or maybe it didn’t. Because I was sitting in church and I had this thought that I have actively chosen not to pursue my faith any deeper than it is now. Which was… a bit terrifying? I mean, I’ve been a Christian for basically my whole life. If there is one thing my entire identity is wrapped up in, it’s that.
I wouldn’t say I’ve had many doubts about the truth of Christianity. I’ve seen God work in my life and in other’s lives. I have always been one to consider logic and try to learn about what I believe. (or maybe I just thought I was doing the latter, but I’ll get to that.) I’ve watched the world. I’ve seen the hopelessness that is the world and I know that we need salvation through Jesus. Christianity is true. I never called that into question.
My journey to this very intense realization about who I am and my entire life’s belief system actually starts somewhere around when I decided to turn my back on feminism. (Which you can read about that here if you would like to.) That post and feminism don’t have anything to do with this post, but I met a specific online friend during that time. I’ll call him Jacob. I met him on facebook in one of the traditional life groups I’d joined and thought he had some good thoughts/points in the comments he would leave. He was level headed, from what I could tell, and I wanted to stay in contact with him when I left the group, even just to see what he was up to.
We didn’t have many private conversations (maybe just one actually). I wouldn’t call him anything like a close personal friend. But what happened was this: his posts and likes started showing up on my timeline. It sounds like a small, insignificant thing, right? Obviously when you’re friends with someone, they’ll show up on your timeline, that’s the whole point. But what Jacob liked and commented on was a lot of philosophy pages. He liked modern philosophers. He was involved in Christian facebook pages and groups. He replied to and discussed his faith with strangers on the internet. I was seeing these things at a time I had decided to pull back and not have online discussions.
But the point was that I started looking at these pages. I started seeing more posts. I started to see Christians giving their faith legs. While it did not feel incredibly impactful at the time, (I knew myself to be a pious and level headed Christian. I knew why I believe the Bible. I knew what I was doing with my own self.) it was planting seeds that I haven’t recognized until now and I started accidentally getting into modern apologetics.
Apologetics: reasoned arguments or writings in justification of something, typically a theory or religious doctrine. (from Google)
Despite knowing very much to the contrary, I think I always thought of philosophy and apologetics and the evidence for Christianity as being pretty settled. I knew there were people running debates and such but I think I had the impression that there was nothing new to be talked about, that there was no ‘deeper’ to necessarily dive into the conversation. And perhaps, that is the impression that truly caught me in a loop of never deepening my own relationship with Christ. But I don’t want to get ahead of myself. My journey continued.
I do not remember if it was specifically Jacob who shared something or if, because of my new likes and groups that the algorithm just handed it to me, but somehow I ended up on a page called Capturing Christianity. For some reason I was drawn to this page more than others. I found his youtube channel and watched a couple videos. Through his videos I found more, similar, channels. Channels about the intellectual side of Christianity. But I stayed with Capturing Christianity and the page’s founder, Cameron Bertuzzi, more than any of the others.
Here’s where I think I started to realize that something was not right with me. Because despite subscribing to his youtube channel, I wasn’t watching his videos. I would see his videos show up in my feed and I would keep scrolling, even when I thought that it sounded interesting. And every time I did that I wondered why I kept doing it. Cameron started a Patreon and I decided to become a Patron. I’ve never become a Patron ever before but something about Cameron made me really believe in his ministry in a way I hadn’t really considered of anyone else. I pledged to support him financially and I hadn’t even watched a majority of his youtube videos and had never interacted with him personally, even through a facebook comment. But now I had financially linked myself to this page, to this ministry.
I started getting emails about having early access to videos and blog posts. I ignored them. Despite literally paying for them, I avoided them. What is wrong with me? I kept thinking. Why am I doing this in the first place?
Then came a private facebook group for Patrons. I joined it because why not? What was I supporting this guy for anyway? So now I was getting notifications from this group and I didn’t ignore all of them. I was making progress that I didn’t understand. I was reading through posts from Cameron and from members and honestly I was… overwhelmed. I felt incredibly out of my depth. I had no idea what some of these people were talking about. I knew they were having good discussions and I had a very intense desire to be part of them but there was absolutely no way was I going to dip my toe into THAT ocean. I’d probably get dragged down by the leviathan if I tried.
So I shambled on. Wondering about why I was doing anything with this group anymore. I tried not to think about it. I tried to pretend there were logical reasons why I avoided videos on apologetics and Christian philosophy. I made up reasons to watch other videos and read other blogs. Until, eventually, I had my realization. I don’t know if it was really what was going on around me in church but I know it was God nudging me. Because that thought hit me out of the blue and it hit me hard. I was avoiding depth. I was avoiding my own faith to some extent.
I was going to church. I was praying. I was (sometimes) reading my Bible. I was acting like a Christian (not perfect but I was trying). I thought I was doing everything right. But something was holding me back and I think it’s been fear this whole time.
Like I said, I’ve never had major doubts about Christianity being true. Or maybe that’s an excuse I used so I wouldn’t have to truly pursue my relationship with the Lord. Because maybe there was a question that I hadn’t thought of before that was going to make me lose my faith? What if an atheist presented a really good argument? What if I didn’t know the answers to hard questions? What if something changed my mind?
I don’t think these thoughts are abnormal. I think we’ve all had those moments when we consider something that’s very important to us from a brand new angle. But when we allow those thoughts to hold us back, we miss out on so much. Which is what I’ve realized. Because clearly, those thoughts are in some way, doubts. I’ve just been happy to ignore them for my whole life while prancing along like nothing has ever touched my grasp on reality.
I’ve decided no more.
I know that I’m missing out on a much deeper faith. I’ve seen a couple of Cameron’s interviews with people who have a rich, real understanding of Jesus Christ. I’ve seen the group posts from normal people like me who have pursued knowledge of the Holy in a meaningful way. They’ve lost nothing and gained so much. I want that too. I don’t want to hold myself back from that.
I didn’t realize how long this journey has been in coming. It wasn’t until I sat down to write this that I started connecting the dots all the way back to the beginning of last year. Every part matters. I didn’t even mention my church being part of it but I firmly believe that God has been using every aspect of my life to get me to this point. If I hadn’t joined those traditional life groups I would’ve never met Jacob. If I hadn’t met him I may never have had those posts and pages crossing my timeline. If those hadn’t been unavoidably put in front of me on my social media then I wouldn’t have found Capturing Christianity. If I hadn’t found Capturing Christianity then I wouldn’t have seen the youtube videos or joined the private group.
I am a supremely stubborn individual who needed all of those things to come together. I needed to be moved, slowly, subtly into this path. It didn’t happen all at once. It was a slow thought process where I had to be forced to examine myself from a different angle, from a new perspective.
I’m tired of running away from this. I know that I don’t need to be afraid of learning more. I know that I don’t have to fear growing in my faith. I know that I don’t need to worry about becoming more like Christ. Because they’re all good things. I know they are. Yet that fear still creeps into my thoughts. Now that I know what it is, it’s all the more present. It’s the world whispering to me that I should be afraid, but my God speaks louder than they do and I cannot keep ignoring His voice. I’ve wasted too much time already.